Mind the Gap: How to Close the Distance Between Who You Are and Who You’re Meant to Be

I haven’t been to London, … (yet!)… but I love British television—especially the crime dramas and mysteries.

And somewhere in the background of those winding plots and quiet train stations, there’s a phrase that always stands out to me:
“Mind the gap.”

It’s meant as a safety warning—watch your step between the train and the platform. But I’ve come to see it as something more. A metaphor. A message.

Because whether we realize it or not, we all have a gap.

The space between the version of ourselves we’re living today… and the one we’re called to become.
Between surviving and thriving.
Between drifting and choosing.
Between reacting to life—and designing it.

That space is the gap.
And you don’t need a train station announcer to tell you: you feel it. I’ve felt it.

The Gap Is Not a Flaw

If you’re someone who cares about living with purpose, you’ve likely felt this gap often.
Maybe you feel behind. Maybe you feel like you’re “too late” or “too scattered.” Maybe you’ve been trying to close the gap with more productivity, more books, more pressure.

But here’s what I’ve come to believe:

The gap doesn’t exist because something’s wrong with you.
It exists because there’s something right with you.

It’s your soul’s way of saying:
There’s more. And you’re ready for it.

What Keeps the Gap in Place?

Distraction. Fear. Perfectionism. Overwhelm.
The false belief that you have to do it all alone—or get it all right the first time.

We get busy. We numb out. We settle for habits that make us feel safe in the moment but stuck in the long run.
And slowly, quietly, we begin to feel disconnected from the person we want to be. The person we already are, underneath the noise.

Closing the Gap (Starts Smaller Than You Think)

The gap can feel overwhelming when you stare at the full distance between where you are and where you want to be. It’s tempting to think you need a massive life overhaul—a dramatic reinvention—to finally feel like you’re aligned with your purpose.

But in my experience, the most meaningful change starts much smaller.

It begins with a moment of clarity.
Then a decision.
Then a habit—simple, repeatable, soul-aligned.

For me, this is where the Heroic framework made a difference.

It didn’t change my life overnight.
But it gave me tools to move forward on purpose, one small act at a time. It helped me connect with my best, most authentic self—not someday, but today.

Through consistent reflection and identity-based habits, I started to shrink the gap. Not by doing more, but by becoming more aligned with who I already was deep down.

What I learned is this:

You don’t need to leap the gap in a single bound.
You just need to start walking with intention—and keep showing up.

Heroic philosophy teaches that the path to closing the gap isn’t found in grand gestures—it’s found in our identity-based habits, our deliberate focus, and our commitment to our highest self. Every. Single. Day.

A Few Questions for the Journey

Take a quiet moment with these:

• Where in your life are you feeling the gap most clearly right now?

• What does your “next-level” self look, sound, and feel like?

• What small, soul-aligned action could you take today to close the distance—just a little?

The Gap Is an Invitation

You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to be fearless.
But you do have to be willing.

Willing to name the life you want.
Willing to start showing up for it—inch by inch, moment by moment.
Willing to mind the gap… and move through it.

That’s the real mystery.
That’s the heroic journey.