Centerline
At Soul Force Strategies, we believe the most powerful life is one lived in alignment—with your values, your purpose, and your deeper self. Centerline is where strategic insight meets soulful reflection. Here, you'll find thoughtful articles, personal reflections, and practical tools to help you lead with clarity, live with intention, and grow from the inside out. Whether you’re navigating change, refining your identity, or reaching for your next level, Centerline is your space to recalibrate, realign, and rise.
Building on Shifting Ground: When the Mice Turn Out to Be Raccoons
After 20 moves, I've learned something essential: You cannot build lasting stability on anything external. Houses have mice. Or raccoons. Jobs end. Roles shift. Plans change. If your stability depends on things staying the same, you're building on sand. So what do you do when literally nothing external is stable? You build internal anchors. The kind that move with you.
Roots and Wings: Building a Portable Identity
Three weeks ago, I unpacked my life for the twentieth time. But I wasn't starting over—because I've learned to build an identity that travels. This isn't about choosing between roots and wings. It's about cultivating practices, values, and truths that anchor you anywhere, while keeping the courage to spread your wings in new territory. Here's how to build a portable identity that's both deeply grounded and completely free.
The Tension We All Live: Introduction to the Stability-Growth Paradox
At a recent workshop, two successful businessmen said they struggled to set goals because they were satisfied with their lives—they felt like they'd "arrived." Part of me thought, good for them. But another part wondered: Is that contentment or complacency? This tension between stability and growth lives in all of us. What if we don't have to choose? What if the most powerful life is one that honors both?
Antifragile: The Journey That Changed How I See Everything
Every one of us lives the Hero’s Journey—not once, but over and over again.
For years, my family’s motto was “we can do hard things,” but it wasn’t until I began my Heroic path that I learned how those hard things could actually shape me. This is the story of how Antifragility became my word, my work, and the way I’ve learned to love the journey rather than fear it.
When Life Hands You the Entire Stress Scale at Once
Stress has a way of showing up like a shark fin breaking the surface—sudden, overwhelming, and impossible to ignore. After 20 moves, a deployment, endless transitions, unexpected challenges, and a nervous system that used to live in overdrive, I finally learned how to meet stress differently. In this blog, I share how Heroic tools transformed my identity, my resilience, and my response to the chaos of real life. If you’ve ever felt swallowed by stress, this one’s for you.
Be Ye Doers of the Word
It’s not enough to know the truth—we have to live it.
When Jesus said, “Be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only,” He invited us to stop watching others’ growth and start doing our own work. This is the heart of discipleship—and the difference between being a librarian of goodness and a warrior of light.
Integration — Becoming Who You Choose to Be
Integration is not perfection. It’s the moment when what you know becomes how you live. Every day, ask yourself: Who do I choose to be today? Then live your answer.
Future Self as Compass
Identity isn’t static — it’s a compass pointing toward who you’re becoming. By connecting to your future self, you align today’s choices with tomorrow’s vision. Through practices like the Heroic Identity exercise, WOOP, and visioning, you can turn aspiration into direction and live each day guided by the person you’re meant to be.
Integrity & Alignment
Integrity is alignment in action—the moment your choices, energy, and focus reflect who you’ve chosen to become. It’s not perfection, but wholeness practiced daily.
The Stress Test of Identity
Crisis doesn’t create identity—it reveals it. When pressure rises, who you truly are steps into view. Stress isn’t the enemy; it’s the forge that shapes you into who you’ve chosen to become.
Habits as Identity Builders
Our habits are not just actions — they’re the daily brushstrokes that paint our future selves. Each small choice is a vote for the person we are becoming. Align your habits with your virtues, and you’ll transform not just what you do, but who you are.
Identity Anchored in Virtue
When your identity is anchored in virtues, life feels steady—even when circumstances shift. Virtues like courage, patience, and integrity become the inner roots that guide how you think, speak, and act. They shape not just who you are, but how you show up in every relationship, workplace, and moment.
Identity Is Created, Not Found
We don’t find ourselves — we forge ourselves. Identity isn’t buried treasure waiting to be discovered; it’s a masterpiece we sculpt one choice at a time. Every decision, every habit, every small act of courage is a vote for who we are becoming.
Weathering Storms with Soul Force
Life doesn’t always go as planned. Recently, I found myself in a hospital bed facing unexpected procedures and complications. In the past, I might have spiraled into fear or victimhood. But this time, Heroic helped me hold my centerline. Instead of wallowing, I chose antifragility—turning the storm into strength.
What is Identity? (Being vs. Doing)
For years, I answered the question “What do you do?” with, “I’m just a mom.”
That little word “just” chipped away at how I saw myself, tying my worth to a role instead of who I truly was. Identity isn’t about titles or résumés—it’s about the way we choose to show up, moment by moment.
Mind the Gap: How to Close the Distance Between Who You Are and Who You’re Meant to Be
We all feel it—that space between who we are today and who we’re called to become. This post explores “the gap” as a sacred invitation, not a flaw—and offers practical ways to begin closing it with clarity, identity-based habits, and self-leadership. You don’t need to leap—just take the next soul-aligned step.
