Antifragile: The Journey That Changed How I See Everything

We can do hard things—and every step forward proves it.

For as long as I can remember, our unofficial family motto has been:

“We can do hard things.”

And we did.
Over and over.

Years of relocations.
Raising four children through constant transition.
Twenty moves across states and continents.
New cultures, new communities, new beginnings every few years.
Health challenges.
Loneliness.
The uncertainty that comes with military life—and the incredible privileges, purpose, and growth that come with it too.

We did hard things because we had to.
Because life required it.
Because that’s what love looks like in action.

But here’s the truth I didn’t understand until much later:

I believed in that motto for my family long before I believed in it for myself.

I could hold the world together for my kids.
I could show up strong for my husband during deployments.
I could run the household, rebuild our life again and again, create stability out of chaos, and keep moving forward.

But on the inside?

I didn’t yet know how to let those hard things strengthen me.

Not until Heroic.
Not until I intentionally began my own journey of becoming.
Not until I learned what it meant to live with Soul Force.

The Question No One Understands: “So… what do you do?”

Ever since I began my Heroic journey—and especially since I launched Soul Force Strategies—this question shows up everywhere:

“What do you do?”

And every single time, I pause.

Because how do you explain something that’s not one neat profession, but a way of being in the world?

How do you describe the work of becoming Antifragile?

How do you summarize— in a sentence—
the messy, beautiful, identity-shaping, soul-strengthening, deeply human process of helping people rise through the hardest chapters of their lives… not despite their challenges, but because of them?

Saying “I’m a coach” feels incomplete.
Saying “I’m a facilitator” is far too small.
Saying “I help people with mindset” barely scratches the surface.
Saying “I teach Heroic frameworks” is true—but it isn’t the whole story.

What I do is what I’ve lived… and continue living:

I help people do hard things in a way that transforms them.

I help people build strength—not just bounce back.
I help them turn adversity into clarity.
I help them answer the question every hero eventually faces:

“Who do I choose to be now?”

Why ANTIFRAGILE Became My Word

Some people pick “Joy” or “Peace” or “Courage” as their guiding word.

Mine became Antifragile.

Not because life got easier—but because I stopped waiting for it to.

Somewhere along my Heroic journey, a shift happened:

I realized I wasn’t here to survive my experiences.
I was here to be shaped by them.
Strengthened by them.
Clarified by them.

Every hardship was a teacher.
Every setback was a portal.
Every move, every moment of uncertainty, every fear, every challenge was a forge.

And I started to finally believe something that had been true my whole life but I hadn’t yet claimed:

I can do hard things—
and those hard things can make me better.
Not just unharmed.
Not just restored.
But stronger.
Clearer.
More whole.
More me.

This is why the Hero’s Journey resonates so deeply with me.

Everyone’s Life Is a Hero’s Journey (Not Just One—But Many)

The Hero’s Journey isn’t a metaphor reserved for novels and movies.

It’s the architecture of human transformation.

And it doesn’t happen once.

It happens endlessly.

Call → Resistance → Ordeal → Revelation → Return → Repeat.

Every time you overcome something, you are initiated into a new chapter.
Every time you face an ordeal, you are being forged.
Every time you rise, you become more of the person you’re here to be.

It never stops.
And that is the gift, not the burden.

Because when you accept that this is the rhythm of life—
when you stop fighting the cycles and start embracing them—
something extraordinary happens:

You stop fearing difficulty.
You stop resenting challenge.
You stop believing something is wrong with you when life feels hard.

And you begin to see yourself as you truly are:

A hero in the making.
Over and over again.
Until the day you die.

So… what do I actually do?

Here’s my answer now—clear, simple, true:

I help people become Antifragile.
I help them live their Hero’s Journey on purpose.
I help them build Soul Force—
the strength to show up each day as who they choose to be.

That’s it.
That’s the work.
That’s the heart of everything I teach, write, build, and live.

And it all began with a simple family motto:

We can do hard things.
Turns out—I can too.
And you can.
And together, we can learn to love the journey.

Not because it’s easy.
But because it transforms us.
Because it forges us.
Because it awakens us.

You become Antifragile.
You become powerful.
You become whole.
You become the hero of your own story.