Centerline
At Soul Force Strategies, we believe the most powerful life is one lived in alignment—with your values, your purpose, and your deeper self. Centerline is where strategic insight meets soulful reflection. Here, you'll find thoughtful articles, personal reflections, and practical tools to help you lead with clarity, live with intention, and grow from the inside out. Whether you’re navigating change, refining your identity, or reaching for your next level, Centerline is your space to recalibrate, realign, and rise.
Building on Shifting Ground: When the Mice Turn Out to Be Raccoons
After 20 moves, I've learned something essential: You cannot build lasting stability on anything external. Houses have mice. Or raccoons. Jobs end. Roles shift. Plans change. If your stability depends on things staying the same, you're building on sand. So what do you do when literally nothing external is stable? You build internal anchors. The kind that move with you.
The Stability Paradox: When Staying is Risk and Growth is Safety
For years, I had a perfectly reasonable excuse for not dreaming too big: "I can't because we'll have to move." "I can't because the kids need me." And some of that was true. But I was also using those real constraints as cover for fear. Staying felt safe. Dreaming felt dangerous. But here's the paradox I didn't see: staying small was the riskiest thing I could have done. Because while I was "safely" avoiding risk, resentment was building. Then came India—terrifying with four kids, but the most stable choice I could make for my soul.
Antifragile: The Journey That Changed How I See Everything
Every one of us lives the Hero’s Journey—not once, but over and over again.
For years, my family’s motto was “we can do hard things,” but it wasn’t until I began my Heroic path that I learned how those hard things could actually shape me. This is the story of how Antifragility became my word, my work, and the way I’ve learned to love the journey rather than fear it.
When Life Hands You the Entire Stress Scale at Once
Stress has a way of showing up like a shark fin breaking the surface—sudden, overwhelming, and impossible to ignore. After 20 moves, a deployment, endless transitions, unexpected challenges, and a nervous system that used to live in overdrive, I finally learned how to meet stress differently. In this blog, I share how Heroic tools transformed my identity, my resilience, and my response to the chaos of real life. If you’ve ever felt swallowed by stress, this one’s for you.
When A House Becomes A Chapter
Standing in the empty rooms of our recently vacated home, I felt the weight of both the beautiful memories and the hard moments we lived there. With the help of my adult daughters—who traveled in to support us—we packed up this chapter and stepped into a new, older home already full of its own challenges. But when I pause, reflect, and choose gratitude, I’m reminded that everything is temporary, and better days are always ahead.
Lessons from 19 Moves: What Reinvention Has Taught Me About Identity
After nineteen moves — across states, countries, and continents — I’ve learned that reinvention isn’t the opposite of identity; it’s how identity is revealed. Each transition strips away what’s familiar and invites us to choose who we’ll become next. This is what nineteen moves have taught me about courage, belonging, and the quiet art of starting over.
The Stress Test of Identity
Crisis doesn’t create identity—it reveals it. When pressure rises, who you truly are steps into view. Stress isn’t the enemy; it’s the forge that shapes you into who you’ve chosen to become.
Weathering Storms with Soul Force
Life doesn’t always go as planned. Recently, I found myself in a hospital bed facing unexpected procedures and complications. In the past, I might have spiraled into fear or victimhood. But this time, Heroic helped me hold my centerline. Instead of wallowing, I chose antifragility—turning the storm into strength.
