Centerline
At Soul Force Strategies, we believe the most powerful life is one lived in alignment—with your values, your purpose, and your deeper self. Centerline is where strategic insight meets soulful reflection. Here, you'll find thoughtful articles, personal reflections, and practical tools to help you lead with clarity, live with intention, and grow from the inside out. Whether you’re navigating change, refining your identity, or reaching for your next level, Centerline is your space to recalibrate, realign, and rise.
The Speech I Didn't Know I Was Ready to Give
I didn't plan to cry during my son's wedding speech. I'd practiced, prepared, even made a 12-foot scroll that unrolled dramatically down the aisle for laughs. But when I looked at my son and his bride, and at my husband after 32 years of hard-won marriage, I realized something: I was standing there as someone I didn't used to be. The words that came out—about vulnerability as courage, about trust as sacred responsibility—those weren't things the old version of me could have said. Not out loud. Not with confidence. This is Part 1 of a 7-part series on what it really takes to love well and be fully known.
Living the Both/And: Where Being and Becoming Finally Become One
We're conditioned to think in binaries: Stability OR growth. Being OR becoming. Roots OR wings. Pick one. Commit. Stay there. But life doesn't work that way. You need both. Not sequentially, but simultaneously. At the same time. In the same breath. This is Soul Force—where being and becoming finally become one. Not the elimination of tension, but the integration of paradox.
The Growth Trap: When the Pursuit of Becoming Becomes Exhausting Performance
In my last blog, I wrote about how protocols saved me. And that’s true. But here’s what I’m learning—the hard way, in real time: The same discipline that grounds you can also trap you when you forget to ask if you’re pursuing the right kind of growth. Not all movement is progress. Not all optimization is healthy. Sometimes the pursuit of growth becomes its own form of imprisonment.
The Stability Paradox: When Staying is Risk and Growth is Safety
For years, I had a perfectly reasonable excuse for not dreaming too big: "I can't because we'll have to move." "I can't because the kids need me." And some of that was true. But I was also using those real constraints as cover for fear. Staying felt safe. Dreaming felt dangerous. But here's the paradox I didn't see: staying small was the riskiest thing I could have done. Because while I was "safely" avoiding risk, resentment was building. Then came India—terrifying with four kids, but the most stable choice I could make for my soul.
Roots and Wings: Building a Portable Identity
Three weeks ago, I unpacked my life for the twentieth time. But I wasn't starting over—because I've learned to build an identity that travels. This isn't about choosing between roots and wings. It's about cultivating practices, values, and truths that anchor you anywhere, while keeping the courage to spread your wings in new territory. Here's how to build a portable identity that's both deeply grounded and completely free.
The Tension We All Live: Introduction to the Stability-Growth Paradox
At a recent workshop, two successful businessmen said they struggled to set goals because they were satisfied with their lives—they felt like they'd "arrived." Part of me thought, good for them. But another part wondered: Is that contentment or complacency? This tension between stability and growth lives in all of us. What if we don't have to choose? What if the most powerful life is one that honors both?
Integration — Becoming Who You Choose to Be
Integration is not perfection. It’s the moment when what you know becomes how you live. Every day, ask yourself: Who do I choose to be today? Then live your answer.
Future Self as Compass
Identity isn’t static — it’s a compass pointing toward who you’re becoming. By connecting to your future self, you align today’s choices with tomorrow’s vision. Through practices like the Heroic Identity exercise, WOOP, and visioning, you can turn aspiration into direction and live each day guided by the person you’re meant to be.
Integrity & Alignment
Integrity is alignment in action—the moment your choices, energy, and focus reflect who you’ve chosen to become. It’s not perfection, but wholeness practiced daily.
The Stress Test of Identity
Crisis doesn’t create identity—it reveals it. When pressure rises, who you truly are steps into view. Stress isn’t the enemy; it’s the forge that shapes you into who you’ve chosen to become.
What is Identity? (Being vs. Doing)
For years, I answered the question “What do you do?” with, “I’m just a mom.”
That little word “just” chipped away at how I saw myself, tying my worth to a role instead of who I truly was. Identity isn’t about titles or résumés—it’s about the way we choose to show up, moment by moment.
